Girls with open hair, and knots

No! Stop! Don’t just limit yourself into thinking she’s just a girl with open hair, she has open wings , an open mind and most of all OPEN EYES.

The girl I’m talking about here knows her way and doesn’t need a man to depend on, she does what she believes is right. She loves criticism as it shows her different aspects of the world but never lives upon them. She won’t stop eating cheese or mayonnaise just because it’ll make her fat, she wants to show the world her inner beauty and feels that expressing herself as  skinny and beautiful might awe the audience but will never make them understand her.

There’s another girl as well, unfortunately her beautiful flowing hair is always tied in knots. She dreams and dreams about the things she wants to do but is led by other’ s wills. She stands with no confidence and criticism is her biggest enemy as she believes she’ll never fit in her society. She eats and talks less, keeping her thoughts to herself afraid the world will judge her. She thinks only a man can lift her and needs a shoulder to  always stand with.

The open-haired girl sees beauty in truth and appreciates all that has been given to her. She is a risk-taker yet knows the importance of understanding your decisions.

The tangled hair girl knows her rights from wrong yet is always forced to hold the wrong’s hand. Risks and adventures are not her cup of tea as she sees it as an opportunity to invite danger itself rather than something fun. She knows she has her own mind and power to lead her life yet puts her life’s remote control in other’s hands.

The free-willing girl dances to her own music and  is always curious to explore, she sets no boundaries, therefore, never crosses them at all. She believes with  so much given to us in the world it is our responsibility to share our joy with ones who live under our shadows .She thinks of rules as warning signs saying “DO NOT ENTER”, and is never able to resist one. She feels that even if  a single tree is cut to give way to an entire forest, it is not worth it as life is the best gift given to anyone and EACH soul matters.

The limited girl isn’t allowed to soar as she is trapped in land, she isn’t allowed to discover or explore as she is not expected to want more from ever-giving Earth. She is captured by her feelings so much , she is never able to share love and compassion with others.  Doors and paths are just reminders to her about her restrictions and limits.Even though, she sees love in each soul and body on land she never raises her voice to support them.

The stubborn girl will ask for something even if the world says no as she believes this is her path, she never keeps her head down, instead looks up to the world in the eye . She doesn’t care if people  talk about her style or attitude badly. This is HER, it’s HER life, these are HER choices and HER path, she doesn’t need anyone who doesn’t even have the slightest knowledge about her judge her. If she is wrong, SHE will face the consequences alone and if right, she alone will stand in utmost pride. This is her world, her oyster and she’ll fill it with pearls.

The weak girl wants to ask a million questions, a whole world resides in her yet she doesn’t speak a word , she keeps her head down unable to ask,”why?”. She follows everyone’s commands as she wants to be kept out of gossips and talks. She keeps thinking why did i step on this planet , the answer that she keeps pushing out her mind ,”to live Your life in your beauty” as it is something that she’ll forever believe yet never be able to step one step ahead by her own when she wants to run for miles and miles on end. She wants to be incharge of herself yet is played around like a ball. This girl, though weak, will find her way one day that’s what she believes , without a hand, a shoulder or another mind. She will lead her own trail and will be stronger than ever, her now whispers will be a shrilling loud voice then.

It is rightly said by  J.R.R. Tolkien,   “My friend, you had horses, and deed of arms, and the free fields; but she, being born in the body of a maid, had a spirit and courage at least the match of yours. Yet she was doomed to wait upon an old man, , and watch him falling into a mean dishonoured dotage; and her part seemed to her more ignoble than that of the staff he leaned on.”

The girls with knotted hair have dreams, aims , curiosity, will, yet lack the strength as it is drained out of it by others. I wrote this article in a shivering state, thinking i cry over not getting freedom to stay up at night , when they cry for not getting freedom to live their life, to stand up , to colour their own colours and not use someone else’s hand. What they need is not sympathy not another hand but a voice encouraging them to get up ONCE AND FOR ALL. A 14 year old girl like me can just write articles but you , YOU can bring light to their darkness, WILL YOU? open their knots or let them forever lie in a web of tangled hair? Make up your mind.

 

Sometimes you don’t HAVE to be brave!

Haven’t we all been in situations where we just want to curl into a ball and deport yourself to Mexico (or if you’re Mexican) to the other part of the world. I’ve been in one of these situations and i know you feel like being invisible at such moments.

Now there are many ways to make these awkward moments a little less awkward.

Like we could just walk away and pretend nothing happened, which may seem the best way out for the current situation but you’re gonna really gonna regret it later. When you meet that person a second time, you’ll resort to measures such as hiding or probably avoiding that place altogether.Now, you see you could’ve just finished the whole case the first time but by stretching it by days, you’ve created more obstacles for yourself.

Another way to avoid these situations is to  always have your phone with you: Being occupied saves us from taking responsibility of the uncomfortable actions happening around us.Now that sounds good doesn’t it?Until…your phone is 10% , no internet and you will have to call somebody very important after a while? In those amazing situations you sit staring  a black screen acting like is the most important job of the world ,that totally makes situations less awkward, huh?

How about just saying “I seriously can’t hear you” three times than just saying “yes, absolutely”cause that it what will bring your troubles knocking on your door.Now, this is one solution which i actually consider worth enough to be on the list .I  mean, okay it does become really annoying for the person speaking but what if they said something like “I feel really depressed because of this day, do you feel i deserve to feel bad about myself and worthless? and you thought she was singing and realise she just threw a question at you, so you go , “Yes, absolutely”.and thats IT! Just by saying “I BEG YOUR PARDON?” would’ve saved you your life and your dear friendship.

The hand-clenching moment when you and your friends or relatives say your good byes and end up walking on the same track.So its  better to  choose the other way before . to avoid  another round of awkward goodbyes.

This is one everyone can relate to, when in karaokes or just singing among a group, we get carried in the flow by the song and everyone’ s joining in a loud voice when …when OH NO! you end up singing the wrong lyrics out loud. And everyone just stops and looks at you while you face another round of complete embarrassment. A way to avoid this is to know either the song very well, with the beats and verses or know yourself , that this may be your jam but there’s no harm with letting everyone else lead.

We face many uncomfortable situations while we’re guessing something about a stranger. The knack , my friend is to NEVER EVER guess but comb it another way. For example- It is a Rule of embarrassment to NEVER,EVER guess a woman’s pregnancy. Its is better to let the woman bring it up herself than finding out she’s without a child and you without your common sense.

Another guess should never be made about anyone’s gender. Why make anyone feel insecure about themselves? If you are curious though, you could ask for their name and if also confuses you, you could use common names  for calling that  person like: dude or guys .

It is always better to have the phone in your hand while showing pictures to someone as everyone has those weird selfies in their phone that they’d rather keep to themselves. You really don’t want sneaky Tom exposing your whole gallery now, do you?

Now , really i could go on and on about situations like these cause we face them almost everyday. But if there’s anything i’ve learned from these situations is SOMETIMES YOU DON’T HAVE TO BE BRAVE, REALLY!

Are we running or is the time?

Aern’t we all this rabbit? Even though we don’t admit it? We’re all time freaks: Worrying that we won’t finish a project on time, we’ll be left behind in our class, we’ll miss the time of our favourite TV show, I mean at that point we really become that rabbit.

This isn’t all bad i mean i feel good at times when I’m busy, like I’m being productive. The big problem, however is when we have too much time in our hands to do anything. Now usually when I’m free i do what any teenager would do, search for what to do when you’re bored videos.

One of the main suggestions given are: BAKE : now the moment i step into the kitchen my mom will burst me with questions like “what do you want?” and when i tell her i want to bake a cake, perhaps , she  will either say “why you just had lunch like an hour ago”, “We’ll make it some other time.” and the worst, the blame game “I told you to eat your food properly, I’ll make some more food for you.” So that is pretty much crossed out the list.

The next one up is STYLING : The best i’ll ever   exactly come close to “relaxing myself” with cosmetics is putting nail polish and thats it.THE END.

Another amazing suggestion is to DECORATE MY ROOM , I know there’s a lot i can do in this area, so i start with enthusiasm and pump up with music and all , you know get in the flow. I start with rearranging my pillows and putting some pens in containers and arranging all the buttons , clips and all into boxes and think about the positioning of my bed, table and chairs …..until….wait? which song is playing? and thats it, i’m distracted finding this amazing song I’ve discovered, spreading the news and eventually sticking to YOUtube for the rest of the day, but mom if you’re reading this i totally clean my room before!

There are so many more tips like: go out for a jog and I’m like man, i live with something called PLANS which never applies to life but only in workouts and have you seen the weather ? not even birds are not JOGGING on our roofs!

Till this point, you’re probably wondering okay..so do you have a solution or not? OF COURSE i do, i come packed with solutions (sure). This is what i call old school solutions:

1) take a book you love, read it again or search for new books and get some nice coffee with it, that should take you atleast 2 hours.

2)Find a new NETFLIX series: I mean I’m sure Riverdale season 2 is gonna come out anytime (please!!!).

3) go and find some new hobby like I’m playing guitar more often now and it really helps cover time (specially if you’re interested). Maybe an instrument or write a song (one of my favourites too),start a trend.

4) Start going through a new language, now i know you’re thinking more work?right? WRONG. This will help you to say it in your daily speech and believe me things get a lot cooler from here.And the last and hopefully not the least:

5) Start presenting yourself to the world, not just through social sites but like make a video, express yourself, prepare a dance or better yet START BLOGGING, seriously this has definitely taken up a lot of my time and gives me something to look forward to each day, I mean what have you got to lose?right?

Well, make sure time doesn’t slip out of your hands and get a grip on your life. its NOW OR NEVER! AU REVOIR!!!

Sugar? Yes, please!

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This should hopefully help me calm down and probably you too (if you’re having a stressful day). You know those moments when you get out of your bed and your head just spins, everything seems a blur and after a second there you are! BACK TO THE HUMAN WORLD…welcome(again). Well, today was just like that , one minute I’m in a spinning tunnel and the other realising “Yes, I exist”.

I know I’m supposed to be saying happy and sappy thoughts but my life just ISN’T like that, it’s imperfect and i celebrate imperfections! cause they are the only things that set us apart and present us uniquely.

Anyways, stepping away from all that inspiring stuff (oh, dear me!) life seems a bit too tiresome and slow right now. Like i have so much on my plate but i don’t wanna eat any of it and i just keep asking the poor waiter, “whats for dessert?chocolate fondue?Tiramisu?chocolate tiramisu fondue ?Whaaat??“and by the time it comes, my entire life is stuck on waiting forever.

Speaking of life, i think that there are different versions of me in different points in my day itself. Like the typical fussy me in the morning who would rather laze the day away, then the emoji me who’s on her phone till her mom yells.

The smiley-smiley me seeing my delicious breakfast. The here-goes-another-day me while going to school. bouncy in school, yawning and (only in my favorite classes) attentive, let’s-do-this girl while hitting balls in squash. Cranky in dinner and where’s-the-T.V person at night.

What are your different versions ?I’d like to know- COMMENT!!! That’s probably enough for  a day also considering the fact that my sister’s eating my head!( and YOUtube’s waiting!).CHAO!

Just like a LEMONade

You know how most people decide on themes for their blogs to make it exciting and more attractive?  Well, i thought about it for ages..and ended up where i started. So, i thought Hey, what’s a better topic to write than my life? I mean sure, it isn’t like I’m Indiana Jones or anything but there’s much i can tell.

Anyways, speaking of exciting and an adventure-packed life ,when i think of one, a life of freshness like a lemonade comes to mind. Some tanginess, sweetness , lip-smacking … (specially the sweet ones , they’re so yum! and the pink and blue….) Ok! back to the point.I went to one of my favourite shopping spots today just to view!!

I mean okay, sometimes i do go overboard with H&M but which girl can hold back now, right? I got so frustrated “just viewing” that i ended up with something my mom calls ” grumpy girl“.I mean buying no coffee either? why oh, why? okay… i am getting a little too distracted

.I’m mostly a keen swimmer but have been playing squash in my neighbourhood club recently for the past few days and have grown keen interest. My dad joins me on weekends but he usually goes in the morning. We have matches and (of course, he usually wins) but i play like a mad tiger ( or mental lion, could go either ways).

I feel a little weird at times during holidays cause i am used to a WHOLE LOT of homework during hols. And when i start stressing over it i remember “man, you don’t even have homework!”and feel like i got lifted off from a burden that wasn’t even there!

Yes’ thats stupid but seriously where would we with just perfection.I mean okay, no worrying about marks or anything but what’s the fun in that?, it’ll be just so boring!( but perfection in maths … I’m up for it!! first me!).

Wouldn’t this world be so much better if we were all just cartoons. I mean we could design our own life, draw (and eat) pizzas in breakfast , lunch and DINNER! how cool is that? We could pop up money at any time, create even the wildest of creatures and so muCH MORE! I mean a whole world of creativity could open! It would be awesome! There’s not much left of today so toodle-do!!!

The bridge to mountains

You’re probably expecting inspirational quotes or cheesy lines in this blog, but what i have to offer is something totally different. So, finally a day’s come to publish my work, or to think that i am publishing it.

I’ve been writing a diary for 2 years while  was in a boarding school but now that i’m back to living with my parents , i think its time i show people my “oh-so-exciting-life”.Nothing really exciting is going on in my life to be honest ,mostly because its a mess. The fact that i’ve just come back from a boarding school may seem ,well, just a fact. But it has affected my life deeply.

Its like i’ve become an alien to electronics since we were just allowed an IPod (with no screen!?) i mean who does that! Cause i had absolutely nothing to do there, i started writing a diary everyday and it became a habit.

Speaking of habits, people say if you wake up at a particular time for more than a month each day it becomes some sort of a ritual. I had to wake up at 5:00am each day yet after completing 2 years , each morning felt like a burden.

you know moments when you get your favourite flavoured  ice-cream after days and you want to savour it?You lick so slowly and  cherish each bite that it ends up melting and there goes your ice cream…Well this was a case with us boarders each dinner. The entire day we’d be forced to eat water- filled and dead dry food that had to taken in GOOD amounts  that some came close to vomiting !!so, it was only at night that  we’d get our desserts. On top of that, just one serve allowed. Also yes, if you’re wondering that they wanted to starve us , Everyone had doubts about evil masterminds behind our council.

Anyway, now that i’ve entered back to a normal life like a normal person it feels anything but NORMAL. My life’s become a whole timetable of electronics just at different times.

In the morning, to school i have to take my laptop to school then come back home and watch my favourite Netflix series ( when will Riverdale season 2 come??!!) and watch T.V till I fall asleep.

And all the meanwhile, on my phone. I know this sounds like a typical teenager’s life but again if you’d been what i went through it would be anything but. All i know for now is i’m still on a bridge walking, running aimlessly till i see the mountain that awaits on the other side.Cheerios!

First blog post

hey there! I’m Manjari , hopefully NOT your typical normal teenager I wander freely wherever i want to go all in my mind. I believe limits are just sign boards saying ” DO NOT ENTER” now honestly i cannot resist that.

i have  been writing a journal everyday for the past 2 years in my boarding school and now that i’m in a day- board i’ve decided to post all my random thoughts and give a voice to my words. I believe in speaking strong and not much.

I practically carry a TOO LAZY TO MOVE sticker on my head while watching Netflix. But i’m not obsessive (or am i?). i could sing for hours and hours to end just cause its literally melody and some sort of yoga to me.

Im a mad dancer and professionalize in the chicken dance. Yes, thats me! Writing has been my passion ever since my teacher taught how to spell it. I can never resist a debate, just thinking about makes my blood hot as i want to be heard and not silenced like anyone else.

I won’t say i want to change the world, i will do it and then talk. I’m a big feminist so watch out! Some people like to call me a fish as i am one with the water. I mean whats better than a mango milkshake , a swim and a perfect holiday?huh?

i’ll be writing an everyday blog on not just myself but the crazy world around me , or me being crazy . Either ways, i’m here to make a difference, and I WILL MAKE IT!